I interviewed a batch of people for a farmhand position, and one woman stood out. She was working on a local farm, and unfortunately that farm had been bouncing her paychecks, and while she liked the work, she didn't like not being able to pay the bills.
I asked her a bit about her interest, and she described a goal she and her husband had; that she'd like to run a cow-calf operation, and they'd been thinking about it for a few years. As I listened to her, I had a flashback to my 22 year old self.
At 22 I was working for a big company, but I knew I wanted to work for myself, and this seminar basically drove home the point that life is happening now, that this isn't a dress rehearsal, and what was I waiting for? Set a goal and take steps to achieve it - or drop it as a goal. After this week-long seminar, literally the next day, I started my first business. What they said rang true to me.
So I'm listening to her talk about her dream, and I interrupted her: "Why don't you do that now?" and I got a whole list of reasons she couldn't farm. But then the far-away gaze came up and more talk about the goal.
"What are you doing to achieve your goal? what steps are you taking now?" and again, a few more reasons, and the far-away gaze. She was used to people just... what? agreeing with this distant dream?
At 22 I started trimming my dreams to what I was actually looking to achieve; I wrote a "vision" statement that was where I wanted to be in a year, and in 5 years.
A farmer is someone who takes the idea about farming out of their head and makes it real. takes a step towards that goal every day, even a small step. Focus on a goal, and setting goals, and making those goals, are the way to get to big things.
If there is something that you've told someone you'd like to do, take a minute and think about what stops you from doing that right now. And then figure out something, anything, you can do to take even a tiny baby step towards that goal.
If you're at a party and someone talks about skydiving and you find yourself saying "I've always wanted to do that" stop those words from coming out of your mouth and look up a jump school and be out the door the next morning!
Do you really want to have your headstone say "I wish I would have..."?
So for this woman I suggest that she find some free land to farm, and to buy a few cows this year, and start growing her herd. I pointed her in the direction of some land I knew was fallow, and I talked about how I talked to people whos land I was farming.
I'm not sure she'll ever be a farmer, but she is a farming talker.